I am in the middle of reading Jane Austin's wonderful novel 'pride and prejudice' I can't describe you how amazing it is. You don't read that novel you live in it, wandering scenes seeing people in formal costumes sitting near the fireplace drinking English tea and having their long conversations about the new rich neighbour or the party they are planning to give, with the wonderful British accent. You just enjoy living in an other world much much different and quieter than ours. I am so fascinated by the notes and small letters going back and forth between neighbours, invitation for a ball, for a visit or for a picnic, letters written by hand with ink pens. How personal these letters were!
Girls were so naive, sensitive and good at arts, they could sing, dance, play piano, paint, sew and make plans with their mothers for pleasing and attracting the future husband's attention. The second you start reading you can't wait to know if Mr. Darcy will forget about his pride and talk to Elizabeth about his love, will she pay attention to his eyes chasing her everywhere sending her messages, will she let go of her prejudice since he denied her in their first meeting?
I don't know yet, but what I am sure of -in spite being addicted to technology - that we miss now a lot of these feelings, I mean these human feelings, we miss details and personal things. We kept letting go of details till we became without identity, we are always in a hurry, we are so good at making few clicks on keyboards, mobile phones to catch up with others but still without feelings. You don't have time to express your feelings; you are not Mr. Darcy to keep wondering what Elizabeth thinks or to count days till the next ball or dinner takes place to see her. Now it is much easier all you have to do is sms her or facebook her to see her status, is she single or in a relationship, what is her favorite movie, song, color, sport........etc. You don't have to wonder anything anymore, told you it is much easier now. But you have to pay for this luxury, feelings are no more deep as before, you break up today, you change your status to single, write a few sad words in your display and make few more clicks to delete some sms, chat logs and mails and you're ready to move on and start a new relationship in a month. There is an old saying 'Easy come easy go' so if you don't give feelings what they deserve from your time and care you won't ever know the meaning of real feelings such as love, passion, forgiveness, tolerance.. etc. I believe indifference is the curse of these days, you're in love or you breakup it's even, you have friends or you don't it's even, you're surrounded by people who care about you but you give shit about them, you're indifferent nothing matter with you, you're losing human's features.
So here are some tips:
- Spend more time showing care for people you love and making real conversations not only chat ones, I was told once by a trusted friend that chat is cheat so keep that in your mind
- Stop doing more than one thing at a time, don't say how are you and minimize the chat window to do something else ( computer games for instance) since you are super busy and don't speak to anyone without giving him your complete attention, it is so disrespectful to stare at the computer screen pretending listening to what is said.
- If you don't feel it don't say it even it is a how are you question don't say it if you are not interested in the answer.
- Show people you care about your love by leaving them sticky notes, surprising them, bringing them chocolate or flowers and by telling them so.
I believe relationships are just like plants you just have to look after them to keep them alive so break the ice, don't be indifferent, pay attention to little details, and stop pretending you don't have time and remember the more you give the relationship the more you get.
OMG how did I forget that? Read 'Pride and prejudice'
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