Are you? Am I? Do they have that right? Do we really owe them that? I have no idea.
Are you a loser? Am I a loser? Define me this word L O S E R? Are we considered losers when we fail in meeting our expectations or when we fail in meeting others expectations? Do we owe others that, meeting their expectations? And what is the limit of others interfering in our lives pretending they do have expectations? And wait a minute who has the right to offend me or you with this? Is it ever too late to start over? Didn't Edison say: I have not failed. I have just found ten thousand ways that won’t work, and what was Edison's teacher feeling after saying to his mother that he is too stupid to learn then finding him Thomas Edison the inventor. I just have some reflections to share so pretend that I am thinking out loud.
Are you a loser? Am I a loser? Define me this word L O S E R? Are we considered losers when we fail in meeting our expectations or when we fail in meeting others expectations? Do we owe others that, meeting their expectations? And what is the limit of others interfering in our lives pretending they do have expectations? And wait a minute who has the right to offend me or you with this? Is it ever too late to start over? Didn't Edison say: I have not failed. I have just found ten thousand ways that won’t work, and what was Edison's teacher feeling after saying to his mother that he is too stupid to learn then finding him Thomas Edison the inventor. I just have some reflections to share so pretend that I am thinking out loud.
I always remember the little boy saying in the alchemist novel: "When someone sees the same people every day, they wind up becoming part of that person's life. And then they want the person to change. If someone isn't what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own"and this one: "Sometimes it's better to be with the sheep who dont say anything and better still to be alone with one 's books. They tell their incredible stories at the time when you want to hear them. But when you're talking to people, they say some things that are so strange that you don’t know how to continue the conversation"
What I want to say is the more you get close to people the more they expect from you. I do believe that when you care about someone you expect his care back you get frustrated when he or she denies your calls for instance or when you get worry about someone and then you find indifference back. I guess these are normal feelings and expectations but what I find awkward is interfering in others lives, dreams and decisions in the name of love, family or friendship. Close people may hope the best for us, may give us all the needed support, and advices but not in a direct way and in the right time, we do need people who believe in us when others don't. That's what we really expect and need from them not criticism and rejection. Actions otherwise are much far from love and care I'd probably call them obsession with control and inclination to fix people although they don't need that.
I have no idea how to defend our boundaries without hurting people obsessed with control and how to deny their stupid questions such as what are you willing to do or isn't it the right time to take back your action or don't you think you are wrong or my favorite one how come you do think you're right while everybody else think the opposite? Very pleasant questions aren’t they?
Well I do not know what is the right thing to do but I am willing to keep doing what I am doing, what about you?
What I want to say is the more you get close to people the more they expect from you. I do believe that when you care about someone you expect his care back you get frustrated when he or she denies your calls for instance or when you get worry about someone and then you find indifference back. I guess these are normal feelings and expectations but what I find awkward is interfering in others lives, dreams and decisions in the name of love, family or friendship. Close people may hope the best for us, may give us all the needed support, and advices but not in a direct way and in the right time, we do need people who believe in us when others don't. That's what we really expect and need from them not criticism and rejection. Actions otherwise are much far from love and care I'd probably call them obsession with control and inclination to fix people although they don't need that.
I have no idea how to defend our boundaries without hurting people obsessed with control and how to deny their stupid questions such as what are you willing to do or isn't it the right time to take back your action or don't you think you are wrong or my favorite one how come you do think you're right while everybody else think the opposite? Very pleasant questions aren’t they?
Well I do not know what is the right thing to do but I am willing to keep doing what I am doing, what about you?
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